Let's talk about Mom Anxiety.

Photos by Briana Lindsey Photography

Let’s talk about mom anxiety.

If you know me, you know I’m the most laid back mom in the world. Like I’m so laid back and have been since Ava was born, that I’ve had countless people ask if Ava’s my 2nd or 3rd child. Maybe it’s because I have two little sisters or maybe because I’ve done a whole lot of babysitting in my life but no matter what made me that way, that’s just how I am.

 Ways to cope with mom anxiety - Postpartum Anxiety -- The Overwhelmed Mommy

Now I’m talking about things like letting Ava feed herself and get messy, I let her play in the dirt (the literal dirt), whenever she falls I never coddle her unless she comes and asks me to, I’m not worried if we aren’t home for nap time or bed time, I’m not super scared of germs like most first time moms are, I’ve always encouraged her to be independent...those kinds of things.

And then there’s bed time — Ava’s slept in her own crib in her own room since the day she came home from the hospital. Of course we take all of the necessary precautions like no blankets or pillows or stuffed animals in the crib, she’s always slept on her back, we had a monitor on her diaper at night until she was about 9 months old (when Baxter ate it) and I’ve always had a monitor in our room to check on her when needed. But generally speaking, I’m pretty laid back.

But since Ava was born, there’s always been this kind of anxiety I’ve had that I can’t really describe. Like things I never ever thought about before are daily and sometimes hourly thoughts.

I feel like I see so much sadness and hurt in the world that instead of my usual “that won’t happen to us” point of view that has always enabled me to just live my life and live it well, I now realize that any of these things could very well happen to us because I’m seeing them happen daily.

What if that sniffle she has is actually something much bigger and I’m just not seeing the signs?
What if there’s a tragic accident at a sleepover?
What if there’s a shooting at her school?

What if? What if? What if?

I see terrible and sad and heartbreaking things happening on the news and all I can think of is Ava and the “what if’s” behind them. What if that was us? What if that happened to us? And I’ll be honest, it’s a bit draining at times. I can’t keep her from school and sleepovers and driving and cars and swimming in pools and college and friends and fun. I just can't and I won't. I can’t hold her and shelter her the rest of her life. I'm her biggest supporter and biggest protector and yet, there are so many things in life I will never be able to protect her from.

I know it’s all just because I’ve never experienced love this strong and this deep and each and every day that passes, my love grows stronger for her. And all of that love makes the thought of something terrible happening that much more frightening.

And then there’s me —

What if something happens to me? What if that headache is actually something much bigger? What if Ava has to grow up without me just like I lost my mom when I was 19 years old? What if that happens to her? It’s heartbreaking that that’s even a possibility. 

 Ways to cope with mom anxiety - Postpartum Anxiety -- The Overwhelmed Mommy

These thoughts never even came to my mind before this precious baby girl came into my life and at times, I feel like they take over my life — they’re constant and they’re like flood filling up my brain. 

But I want to live my life knowing that God has a plan for us and I want to be content and happy in knowing that He has the perfect plan. I want to life happy and fully and I want to live the best life we can and just enjoy every single precious moment we have together. But that mom anxiety is real and it’s rough and it’s with me always.

So here’s my question:

How do you deal with mom anxiety? Is this just a new part of my life that’ll always be there because I'm a mom and I've got the most loving, perfect human to protect? How do you all cope with the "what if's?

 Ways to cope with mom anxiety - Postpartum Anxiety -- The Overwhelmed Mommy

OOTW | Kids Gauchos + A Black Jumpsuit

Last weekend we had a beach trip on Saturday and it was glorious -- just glorious. And then Sunday rolled around and I thought to myself, "This is great! Ava and I are going to spend every single day at the beach this week and it's going to be the best week ever." I stayed up super late on Sunday night getting tons of work done for the week and I was stoked for a week full of beach trips. And then I woke up on Monday morning and that weather said to me, "You know what Jenn, we can't really make up our mind so we're just gonna give you sun but with lots of wind."

 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy

Yep, so much sun and blue skies but with all of that wind, we're at about 60 degrees over here and I don't know about you, but beachin' it in 60 degree weather and crazy winds doesn't sound fun. So here we are, another week at home watching Trolls on repeat.

Better luck next week?

All of you with snow in your backyards are probably rolling your eyes at me right about now but I swear, my skin and my bones do not know how to handle 60 degrees when my mind is yelling "beach!" Long story short (well, I guess that story wasn't so short after all), the weather can't make up it's mind so our featured outfits are made for this crazy can't-make-up-my-mind kind of weather and I'll tell you why --

Ava's rocking the most darling kids gaucho pants and a simple white kids tank top. That way if the weather is too cold for her little body, we can throw on a cardigan or a jacket and her outfit still looks fab! Of course she's wearing her favorite sunglasses (one of her 6 favorite kids sunglasses), the most darling little kids huarache sandals and my favorite black kids turban. Aren't these just the perfect cute kids clothes for Spring?

 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy

And then for me -- I'm rocking a black women's jumpsuit that's super lightweight for warm weather but looks so darling when you layer it up! I love wearing a tee shirt or a long sleeve shirt under the cute jumpsuit or I even throw on cardigans or jackets over and I'm set for the wind. I've dressed it up with a tear-drop choker necklace and then those tan women's sandals are just the cutest, huh?

Per usual, click the buttons below to shop each item in our outfits
and scroll on down to take a closer peek at everything we're rockin'!

 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mommy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy
 Cute Spring Kids Clothes - Kids Gaucho Pants - Black Women's Romper - The Overwhelmed Mpmmy

Utah Winter Travel Guide [for families with kids]

Sponsored with love by Stein Eriksen Resort

If you're looking for things to do with kids in the Utah in the Winter then you've come to the right place!

I'll be honest - never in a million years did I ever have Utah on my list of places I wanted to travel. It was never even on my radar. But then in January I was trying to find fun places to travel in the U.S. with kids in the winter and I came across an article on dog sledding in Utah. I was planning Frank's surprise birthday trip and it just so happens that dog sledding has been on our bucket list for years now. Utah was only a short (and inexpensive) flight away and I would lots of things to do in the Winter in Utah with kids and so, our plans began!

So if you're looking for a fun place to travel with kids in the Winter, Utah is the place. I just want to go back already!

PRESS PLAY for a little peek into our Kid-Friendly Utah family travel guide and I made a list below of all of the things I would recommend doing while you're there!

1. Stein Eriksen Lodge Deer Valley

I seriously cannot say enough amazing things about Stein Eriksen Lodge Deer Valley. We've stayed at nice hotels before but never have I ever experienced staff that is amazing as they were. Upon arrival, Ava was super fussy since we had been traveling all day and we were immediately welcomed with smiling faces. They even gave her a cute little mountain goat stuffed animal to cheer her up!

The rooms were unbelievable (just wait until you see the view from our balcony), the service was unlike any hotel I've ever experienced and that buffet. Let's just say that you've never experienced an all you can eat buffet until you've been to the buffet at Stein Eriksen Lodge. Seriously, we may just fly to Utah just to eat there again!

They've got a ski resort right there too and while we didn't ski or snowboard this trip, it is definitely the perfect place to stay if you're going on a ski trip to Utah!

 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide

2. Luna Lobos Dog Sledding

We did the one hour trip with Luna Lobos Dog Sledding and let me tell you, it was the best decision ever. They were professional, incredibly welcoming and friendly and we even got to play with the dogs before and after! And yes, we got to play musher and kids of any age are welcome :)

 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide

3. Ice Castles

Unfortunately our Midway Ice Castle trip was cancelled due to the ice melting a couple weeks before we got there but based on reviews and photos, it is totally a must for families!

4. Midway Crater

The Midway Crater was just the coolest experience and something kids can do in Utah. It's this big crater with a naturally heated pool. If you look up, you can see right up to the sky and it was just a super fun experience. They have life vests for kids and adults and it's a super inexpensive activity in Utah.

 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide

5. Antelope Island

You guys, we got to see real live antelope and buffalo in the wild. It was just...wild. Like so cool. I believe you can camp on the island in the summer but we just went out for an hour or so, drove around Antelope Island and searched for wildlife. And we saw so many animals! Ava was, unfortunately, asleep for most of our trip there but it was so much fun to cruise around in the car while she slept!

 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide
 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide

5. Utah Olympic Park

So there wasn't much going on while we were there since all of the "rides" are closed on Mondays but it was still pretty neat to go through the Utah Olympic Park Museum and see the different winter stadiums. We really wanted to do the Olympic Luge (Frank did, not me) but they were closed that day for weekly maintenance so we were pretty bummed out. I guess we will just have to go back! :)

 Kid Friendly Activities in Salt Lake City - Park City, Utah -- Utah Family Travel Guide