For the seasoned mommy, this may seem a bit silly but as a first time mom I had no clue whatsoever about diaper rashes. And apparently, Ava's got some sensitive skin because within a week of being born she already had diaper rash. And it was BAD. Okay, I have nothing to compare it to but it seemed bad to me.

I know that we needed cream to get rid of it (we used Desitin) but what would prevent her from getting a rash in the future? We would change her diaper less than a minute after she relieved herself and still, the rash would come back.

And then I finally discovered that some wipes are just water. Who knew? Admittedly, the idea of wiping her with only water grossed me out. And then I realized that adults wipe with less than that so it wasn't gross at all!

We tried Huggies Natural Care wipes and they worked like a charm. Yes, she's gotten a slight red bottom here and there but nothing even close to a diaper rash since we switched. Voila!

how to prevent diaper rash

(click on the image and it'll take you to where we purchase them on Amazon)

So for all of the mommies out there who are struggling with the red bottom, give it a try!

Any other mommies have good tips for preventing diaper rash? Comment below!


This summer changed my life.

As the summer is coming to a close and I see all of the mommies (and teachers) posting their "first day of school"  pics and the classic "empty classroom all set up the day before school starts" photo, I look back on a summer that changed my life.

Despite the obvious -- raising my first little girl who turned me into a mommy and chopping all of my hair off because those hormones are making me lose it all in clumps -- the way I now view life did a complete 180.

There are a couple things that definitely contributed (Frank going to a Tony Robbins conference, reading "The Power of A Positive Mom" and my getting way more involved in church activities), but first and foremost it was my change of mindset. I wouldn't say I am a downer but if something in my life goes wrong, I feel as though the world is crashing down on me. Why me? Why don't I ever get a break? And when I finally do feel like the world is on my side, something else goes wrong.

Why me?

I've come to realize that that's just life. Even if I had the "perfect" life from the outside, I am 100% positive there would be tons of struggles headed my way.

Because that's just life and life isn't perfect.

how to stay positive as a mom

This summer, I became a positive person. And if you learn anything as a mom, I'd say that being positive should be number one on your "work on myself" list or whatever list you want to place it on.

Kids will be kids and there is nothing we can do about it. So whatever is going on in your life, find a way to turn it into a positive. Seek out happiness, because it isn't just going to come knocking on your door.

When Ava spits up (well, projectile vomits) in the middle of a restaurant, just be happy that you're wearing your $20 shirt and not the $200 one you just bought last week.

When your favorite show doesn't get onto the DVR thanks to Frontier's amazing new service, think about that extra hour of quality time you get to spend with your baby, your husband and your pup.

When your usually easy going baby is still awake and it's midnight, just think about all of those extra snuggles you're getting with her.

And if the car doesn't start when you're running late for a beach trip, just think about how happy your husband will not be to drive his Mustang GT down the canyon road, since he never gets to drive his car when we are going anywhere as a family.

Heck, when you're in the middle of writing a blog post on how your life changed this summer and your internet browser suddenly shuts down and doesn't save anything you've written, realize that maybe that was just God's was of telling you to start fresh. That first draft wasn't so great anyways!

And finally, if Ava's favorite yellow taggies blanket gets misplaced at a family BBQ an hour and a half away from home and not even her blue taggies blanket can replace the yellow one...well you can flip out then. Because I can't imagine anything positive could come out of that situation ;)

What I am getting at is that there is truly a positive in every situation. It may be hard to figure it out while you're in the middle of a crisis, but I promise if you look hard enough you'll find it and it will change your life for the better. As moms, we need to set that example for our kids so that they, too, will make the choice to live a positive, wonderful life. We have the chance to create an amazing, happy, beautiful life for ourselves and our families but we just need to make the commitment to do that.

It's a choice.

This summer changed my life and I hope that seeking out the positive in every situation you encounter will change your life too.

No matter what gets thrown my way, my life truly is amazing.

The Key to Being A Productive Mom

When Ava was first born, she slept just about all day. You all know that newborns sleep a ton but at that point, all I wanted to do was snuggle and hold her and stare at her all day long. So that prevented me from getting anything done.

And then she got into a normal napping and sleeping schedule and I still never got work done. Blogs on The Overwhelmed Bride were scarce (I used to publish a blog every single day) and I couldn't figure out why I felt like I never had time for anything. The house was clean, the laundry was done and she was napping, and I still just didn't get anything done.

As this summer rolled around, I joined a mom's Bible study at our church and with a couple of mommy friends, we started a mommy-kid play date once a week.

Just so you know the background on this, I never put on clothes. I wear my pajamas all day long, my hair up in a messy bun, and no makeup...ever. But of course with these weekly events starting, I needed to look a little more put together than I was used to.

The Key to Being A Productive Mom

The first week rolled around and I got dressed and put on makeup TWO DAYS IN A ROW.


Each day I would get home around 11:30am and although half of my day was already gone, I would get so much work done. Like way more work than the days when I had the entire day to work!

And I finally figured out the key to being productive...

...getting dressed and looking my best!

Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, I seriously think this is key in having productive days, whether that means getting out of the house to go to the park, going grocery shopping, vacuuming the house or anything else you have on your to do list. Even if you don't have time for makeup, just put on some clothes or quickly slide on some mascara (I mean, it only takes a minute).

And not only that, it makes me feel great, puts me in a great mood, and makes my husband happy too!

So try it out and let me know if it work for you!

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

The other day I was browsing through Etsy (what else is new?) and came across the most adorable baby boho necklace. As I was about to click "purchase" I realized that I could easily make it myself! And why buy something when you can make it yourself for double the price? haha Well that's typically the case with DIY projects, but in this case, I was able to make 3 of them for less than the price I saw this one for and I still have enough materials to make probably 6-10 more...not that Ava needs that many boho necklaces, but you get the point. And sometimes, it's just fun to try out something fun and new!

So I gave it a try!

With no directions whatsoever, I experimented with different sizes and materials and came up with three different variations of the necklace. It only took around 10-15 minutes per necklace and I had a blast doing it!

I am not going to show any photos of Ava wearing it quite yet, because I have a boho crochet vest coming in the mail soon and that just has to make it's debut with one of her new necklaces. But I will show all variations so you can choose which you like the best! -- Happy crafting:)

How to make a DIY Boho Necklace:

1. Choose the fabric you'd like to use for the necklace. You only need one fabric per necklace, but I guess you could mix and match within the same necklace (I literally just thought of that as I was typing so I will have to give that a try!).

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

2. Next we are making the part that goes around the neck and for the first necklace, I chose to braid the fabric to create the actual necklace. I forgot to take into account how much the fabric would shrink as I braided so I had to tie some string on the end of this one to make it long enough. So if you are choosing to braid, make sure it is about three times the length you want the actual necklace to be!

Some variations on this are half string and half braid, full braid, and braided string that isn't the same as the fabric. You will see all variations in this post to see which is your fave!

So anyways, cut your material into three sections and tie them all together on one end so you can braid. Then braid it as tight as possible all the way to the end and tie it off.

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

3. Cut 10-15 strips of your printed fabric. I experimented with different lengths and this definitely will vary depending on the child. But whatever length you choose, cut the strips into double that length, as they will all be folded in half.

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

4. Attach the strips to your necklace braid by looping in half and then pulling both loose ends around the braid and through the loop. Pull tight so it won't fall off and continue with all strips.

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

The Final Product

And here it is, the final product! You can see the braided necklace variations I tried, different lengths for the frill and different amounts of frill on each, some more full and some with less. And then on the peach one, I also added so very thing gold strands which I absolutely LOVE! You can scroll down to get a closer look at each :)

Which one is your favorite? Comment below!

DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial
DIY Baby Boho Necklace Tutorial

A Quick + Easy DIY Nursery Decor Project

I can't believe I am actually saying this because I ALWAYS get things done way ahead of time (yes, I am that girl who shows up to everything 20 minutes early) but I JUST finished the last piece of decor in Ava's room. Yep, we had a blank wall above her crib up until yesterday. Okay, let's be real -- I am sure I am going to find something else I totally love and will just keep adding and changing up her room decor. I already am planning to get one of those adorable little play teepees once she starts crawling! But until now, I can finally say that her room is complete...just four and a half months late.

I had a lot of trouble deciding what to put above her crib because what if it fell? I needed something that was lightweight so if it were to fall on her, it wouldn't hurt her.  And so, on a whim yesterday, we ran to Michaels and picked up some goods to DIY a little craft that I think turned out absolutely adorable.

Side story -- When my husband came home from work and I showed him, the first thing he said was, "Well what if those push pins fall out of the wall and into her crib and she rolls on them? That won't hurt her at all (sarcasm)." Dreams shattered. And after I hung it, Baxter walked in there and growled and barked at it like it was an intruder for a good 20 minutes. So apparently I am the only one who likes it but I am going to show it to you anyways :)

And it only took about 10 minutes from prep to hanging which was the coolest part! So here it goes:

What you need:

- 2 push pins or thumb tacks
- 5-6 feet of twine (or string)
- around 30 yards of ribbon, lace, fabric, etc
- scissors (you can't forget those!)

How to make it:

1. Cut your ribbon, lace, string and fabric into 2 ft strips.

cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas
cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas

2. Tie each strip onto the twine (I used 5 1/2 feet) in the center of the strip, so that one foot hangs on each side of the twine. I didn't have any pattern to mine, but just tried to spread out the colors.

cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas

3. When you are done tying, flip all of the strands to one side and slide them to space it out as you like it.

cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas
cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas

3, Hang it up with your push pins and voila, that's all there is to it!

cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas
cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas
cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas
cute and easy DIY nursery decor ideas


This week's reading was all about attitude and were my favorite chapters. I wouldn't call myself a very positive person, at least in times of hardship. Any curve ball that gets thrown my way always seems to be more than I can handle. And so, these next couple of chapters are ones that I am most working on in my own life to not only make my own life happier and more positive, but to show Ava that she should do the same as she begins to encounter hardship in her life.

And this week we have a lot of Ava photoshoots going on with lots of different brands (they seemed to all come in at once) so I am not going to be "chatting" about each of the quotes below, but I hope that you're able to have an internal conversation or a conversation with a friend or your spouse to go deeper into each of these points that found throughout the three chapters I read this week.

It's all about perspective.

"The question is not "What are you going through?" but "What is your perspective and attitude in the process?" (126)

Trust in God.

"Contentment is the opposite of self-pity. If our hearts are content because we trust in God as our loving provider, then we'll tend to keep our eyes off our troubles. But if we dwell on our wants or our difficulties (great or small), we will lose sight of the provisions God is granting us." (127)

Attitude is a choice.

"We learned that contentment is not based on what you have; it is based on how you choose to view life. It is an issue of the heart." (128)
"The remarkable thing is that we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing that we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes." (137)

Gratitude is Contagious

"We can give our children no greater gift than a positive, consistent attitude of gratitude. Attitudes are contagious!"" (141)

Our struggles are blessings.

"If we had our choice, we'd probably choose to go through life without any struggles. Who wouldn't want life to be easier? But like it or not, our struggles actually serve a purpose. The hep us grow and develop into stronger, wiser, and more faithful people." (146)

Let our children struggle so they learn to turn to God.

"As positive moms, let's give our children a balanced outlook on life. Yes, there is pain in this world. There is disappointment. There is struggle. But there is also God." (155)


This week's reading was all about prayer and just like last week, I am going to be writing down some of my favorite excerpts from the book and my thoughts on each! Hope you can join in and read along with me :)

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks the door will be opened." (Matthew 7:7-8)

Why do we pray?

"We pray because God tells us to bring all our requests to him.
We don't need to impress God (or the people around us) with our ability to spout windy, pious-sounding prayers. Prayer, Jesus said, is actually best when kept personal and simple." (80)
"We pray because we need wisdom from above to be good mothers." (81)
"We pray because it turns our eyes toward God and off our problems." (82)

This section really stood out to me because from longer than I can remember, I was told that God has a plan for us and that everything in our lives happens for a specific reason. And I struggle with this and the idea of free will because at times, we don't know why something has happened to us or why we were put in a specific place but later when we look back on these instances, we can often trace them back to why they happened. If it happened, I would have done this or received this job or gotten that deal. And so for this point, the part that stood out to me most was the idea of praying because I am a mother. I cannot be a mother alone and I need God to help me with this path I am taking. And so, prayer is needed.


I don't have time for prayer.

"'Sometimes we think we are too busy to pray,' C.H. Spurgeon once said. 'That is a great mistake, for praying is a saving of time.'" (85)

This one is so much of what I see in my own life. We have somewhere to be after dinner so we quickly sit down, skip the prayer because we are rushing, and scarf down our food. Is that 30 seconds of prayer really going to make us late? Nope. And so, the idea of prayer saving us time really hit home for me. And you'll see inthe 'Cleaning out our closets' section why.


Never give up on prayer.

"As positive, praying moms,, we need to be persistent." (91)
"Checking emails can be downright frustrating at times. Just when I feel like I have responded to all m emails, I'll check in the hours later and the inbox is full again. We can never say, "Well, I finished checking emails. I won't have to do that again." No, as much as we should like to have victory over emails and messages, they keep showing up again and again.
Many of our responsibilities as mothers require that kind of continual, repetitive attention: the laundry, dusting, picking up toys, cleaning dishes, even changing diapers (up to a point). Our worries, cares, and fears demand similar repetitive attention." (102)

Do you ever feel like you pray and pray and pray and nothing ever happens? I sure do! And sometimes, I just want to give up. It isn't helping anyways so why waste my time? What if we were to give up on potty training after the first try? There would be a whole mess of a house and so much more work for us to do, cleaning up accidents and washing the sheets over and over and over again. And just like that, prayer takes consistency too.


Cleaning out our closets.

"As mothers, we have a tendency to hold on to things we shouldn't - and I'm not just talking about old bowling balls, broken umbrellas, and worn-out tennis shoes. Too often we allow the cares of life to pile up in the closet in our hearts called "worry." Just as we clean out the junk in our home closets on a regular basis, we need to continually cast off the worries that we collect and tuck away in our hearts. And while we might reasonably clean out a junk closet once or twice a year, we should tackle our worries one a daily basis." (95)

Now this is me to a tee. I hold onto things. I get into fights with my husband and just won't let it go. I hold grudges and never forget them. I worry, I stress, and I just can't leave it up to God. And so, this is where I am going to work on my prayer time because in this way, I believe prayer could (will) have a huge impact on my life.


This summer, I am attending a Bible study for moms at my church and over the course of the next couple of months, we are reading and discussing the book "The Power of a Positive Mom." After reading just one chapter, I was hooked.

Now if you know me, you know that I cannot stand reading. I just hate it. It's boring to me and when I read, my mind begins to drift. But for some reason, this book has me wrapped around it's finger and, so, I decided that I would blog along each week as I read.

While it is a Christian-based book, it really is a great read for any mom (or dad) out there, whether you are Christian or not, as it talks about many different aspects of being a mom outside of religion.

Each week, I am going to highlight some of the points that really stood out to me, and the things that I am really going to try to implement in my own life. And so, here I go!

Our kids don't always need us.

"But I came to the humbling realization that there are times when our kids can and will make it without us - even should make it without us. It is tempting as mothers to step in and solve all of our children's problems, thinking we are the only ones who can. The truth is that our children need experiences that teach them to cope without us. If we take care of every need and are present in every situation, how will our children learn dependence on God?" (13)

This is one that is going to difficult for me to learn and while Ava is so young right now, it is something I will definitely need to work on as she gets older and more independent. We want to raise independent kids who love and lean on their parents, but who also are able to live their own lives, make their own decisions, and accomplish goals without mom helping them every step of the way. Whether we like it or not, our kids are going to grow up and it is up to us to allow them the room to grow.


We need to stop comparing ourselves to other moms.

"Often, however, we are tempted to compare ourselves to other women, and we forget that God has created us as unique mothers designed with exacting care to benefit our unique homes and families...Other families and other mothers may look like they have it all together, but in reality they, like us, have their good points along with their flaws, their challenges, and their regrets." (22)

This is one that so many moms struggle with and I point the blame on social media. There is nothing wrong with social media and, in fact, without it, I wouldn't have a job. As a blogger, social media is my job. But in life, we like to portray the happy moments in our lives and would never even think to post a photo of our kids in the middle of a tantrum. And there is nothing wrong with that either, as we don't want to come across as complainers! But just remember that just as your life may look perfect from the outside to others, those other moms and families are struggling in areas as well. We are only human and every human struggles.

And the point that I loved most about this, is the idea that you were created as a mom for your family and your family only. God gave you the perfect child for you - that child was chosen for you specifically and that is what makes being a mom so special. You may be able to handle your own struggles, where another mom may not be able to handle them as you do. And so is the same with you being placed in their shoes. So just remember, that you were imperfectly created as the perfect mom for your family.


You don't need a full schedule in order to be a good mom.

"Is there anything on the list you don't need to be doing? Is there anything on the list you sense God telling you to stop doing? You and I must reexamine our activity load on a regular basis, asking ourselves these important questions, making adjustments and gaining control of our calendars. Although we may think and overflowing plate of activities and interests makes us "well-rounded," the truth is that it i more likely to stress us out and make us ineffective in our areas of primary responsibility." (24)

Now this one is huge for me as my daughter is only three months old and I have already taken on a new blogging venture (this one), joined 2 mommy groups, started a mommy-kid play date once a week at our church and joined a small group. And as Ava gets older, I am sure I am going to want to volunteer for everything and anything at her schools and sign her up for every activity and sport there is out there. I mean, I have the privilege of working from home and creating my own hours, so it would be terrible for me not to take on those tasks, right? Well that's what I always think and I don't like to say no. And while I am not overwhelmed by the activities I have taken on at the moment, I am sure they will continue to pile higher, leaving me burnt out and unable to tend to my core responsibilities as a mom.

Keeping my responsibilities outside of the home to a minimum so that they remain manageable, will enable me to be effective in other areas of my life but will also allow me to focus my attention on being a mom over everything else. And more than anything, THAT is what will make me a good mom....not taking on every other responsibility outside of the home.


Moms need a break.

"Our cell phones are a vital part of our daily lives - we would never think of leaving home without them, right? Unfortunately, they always need to be recharged. Many times I've had to make an important callor find directions, only to see the display on the phone blink "low battery." Cell phones may be a great convenience when they are fully charged, but they are useless if they run out of battery.
The same is true for mothers. We become drained too. We get tired physically and emotionally from the constant effort to discipline, entertain, and care for our kids....We all need a break, a respire, a safe haven in which we can re-energize from the cares of motherhood." (28)

While we are on 24/7 as a mom, we need our sleep and we need a break. During those breaks, we are still mom and are still going to be on call but we need to find time for ourselves too. I know that I need to work on taking a nap, sleeping in once in a while and even going out to get my nails done alone or grabbing a drink with friends. Those moments don't make us bad parents because we need a break from our kids, but they give us a way to re-energize and re-charge that battery FOR our kids. So those breaks, while they are for us, they are positive for our families as well!


Our kids need constant encouragement.

"One of the greatest investments we can make i the lives of our kids is to give them sincere and specific words of encouragement. It costs us so little in time and effort, but the rewards are priceless. When our young people are reminded of their God-given value, they receive deposits of confidence, security, and well-being in their emotional bank accounts. The begin building on their strengths, knowing the have something to contribute to this world. On the other hand, when our children have nothing positive to believe about themselves, their emotional bank accounts can become bankrupt - overdrawn by the negative comments and disappointments that occur every day in the world around them." (36)

I think this one just takes a constant reminder over time. We get so deep into our every day busy lives that I can definitely see myself forgetting the need for constant encouragement in my child's life. So for this, I think I need a post-it note on my mirror to remind me each morning. And in addition to encouraging our children, I think we should add encouraging ourselves to the daily checklist too!


We cannot make our kids want what they want.

"As mothers, our affirming influence is like that breeze that firmly sends the sailboat of our children's lives across the water of life. Helping our children reach their destination - to achieve the fullness of their God-given potential - is one of the most rewarding aspects of our jobs as moms. But we must be careful. It is tempting to impose our own expectations on our children, to try to push them in the direction we want for them rather than the direction God has planned for them since the beginning of time. Our challenge is to learn how to be the wind in their sails without blowing them off the course God has set for their lives." (51)

Just like a rebellious teenager, kids are going to love what they love and will be good at what they are good at. I find myself in conversation with my husband asking, "What sport should Ava do so she can get a full-ride to college?" Instead of remembering that God has designed a plan or her life, we begin to plan it out at such a young age. Of course, the activities we place her in are going to direct her, but what if Ava doesn't like sports? It's crazy to think since we are both sports families and even more difficult to actually type and publish those words but no matter how much we push her in one direction, she is who she is and is going to follow her own path in life. 

And so, as a mom, I need to encourage her where she needs to be encouraged. I need to allow her to try out different sports and arts and music so that she can find what she loves, rather than becoming a competitive gymnast because that is what I did and what I want her to do. I need to encourage her and be her biggest cheerleader in whatever she chooses.


A smile goes a long way.

"A smile speaks volumes to our children. When a mother smiles at her son from the audience of a school play, she tells him, "I'm proud of you. You're doing a great job." When she smiles as her daughter comes in the door after a difficult day at school, she reassures her, "It's okay. Everything will be alright." (66)
"We don't have to wait to have "happy feelings" before we smile. Think about it. Most of the actions we take in life are not based on a feeling, but on a deliberate decision. You don't wait for the feeling to hit you before you do the laundry, do you? I hope not - otherwise you'd have piles of dirty clothes ling around just waiting for you to get a warm, fuzzy feeling about doing the wash. For most of us, I think, those piles would simply keep growing! No, you do the loads because they need to be done. It's not a matter of feeling like it; it's a matter of choosing a course of action. Smiling, too, is something we can choose to do whether we feel like it or not. It's an act of kindness - sometimes a sacrificial one - extended to those around us." (67)

We all know that there are studies after studies that prove the power of a smile not just in others, but in ourselves. So why not make ourselves happy while making our kids happy too? It's a win-win for everyone and is something that is so simple (and free!). And that's another post-it I think I should add to my mirror. If I do nothing else in life, a simple smile every single day will definitely make me a better mom.

I know I just wrote a novel but there is so much more to learn from this book and these were just the points that really hit home with me, personally. So each week, I will continue to blog about the book and what stands out most to me. And I encourage you to follow along with me!

Lastly, I am going to leave you with a prayer that was included in the book, that I just loved and wanted to share with all of you:

"Wonderful Father, thank You for allowing me to participate in the glorious occupation of motherhood. Thank You for being the perfect parent - and the perfect role model! Please help me to remember that my job is significant and eternally important. Help me to glorify You as I work, teach, play, change diapers, and make sandwiches each day. Bless my family with peace and safety as we grow to honor you. In Jesus' name I pray, amen." (15)


Every mom plays an important role in her baby's life. In adition to providing our babies with life, with milk to grow and a home for over 9 months, we have a special bond with our little ones. And for some reason in our society, it seems that the men are always considered the "next in line." They are mommy's loyal helper, the one who takes the baby when mom is too tired, who changes diapers when mom just needs a break and the ones who are always learning how to take care of a baby. They are always learning "the right way to do things" because mommy knows best.

the role of the dad in a baby's life

Well that's what so many dads (and moms) think of the role of the daddy, but in reality, were are on equal levels in our kids' lives and guess what? Mommy isn't always right! The way she changes the diaper is her way of doing it, and dad has another way of doing it. The way dad dresses his little girl and the color bow he picks out is adorable to him, and could never be the wrong way. I often find myself correcting my husband on the way he takes care of Ava.

"You know if you roll the dirt diaper up like this, it works a lot better and creates more space in the trash can."

"You know that the water in the bath tub can be warmer than that, right?"

"That outfit you put on her totally doesn't match!"

And because of all of this, he has come to ask me to pick out her outfits and asks me if he is putting her diaper up high enough over her belly. Frank is the most amazing daddy and could very easily do all of this on his own, of course, but because of how I have worded things and how many times he has been "wrong" in my eyes, it is almost as though we make our husbands feel that we are better at taking care of the little ones than they are. But we aren't.

Just because I am the mommy, doesn't mean I am right. And it doesn't mean that he is right. It just means that we are different and we have our own ways of doing things, just like another mommy may do it differently than I do.

To all of the mommies out there: Stop telling your husband's how to do it right. If the baby's diaper explodes all over the place, he will learn how to do it differently. And if she spits up all over him, he will know next time that a blanket may be better than a small burp cloth.  And guess what? He will continue to choose funky outfits that you never would have thought of, and may even put her romper on backwards but does that all matter? In the end, no.

At one point, you didn't know how to put the diaper on correctly and you didn't know how to swaddle and guess what? He is as smart as you are and will figure it out just like you did. So let him do it his way. He is a daddy and is just as good of a parent as you are. And he is doing it all right, just differently.

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And to all of the daddies out there: You are doing a fabulous job. Whether your wives say it or not, society always tells us that mommies do it better. But we don't. We all have our own ways of taking care of our little ones and we aren't right and we aren't wrong. So when it comes time to pick out her outfit, pick what YOU think is adorable, change the diaper the way that works best for you and sooth her the way you think will be best to comfort her while she is crying.

Daddies, you are amazing at being a dad. You aren't mommy's little helper and although you may not be able to provide milk out of your boobs (which still makes me feel like a super hero), that is literally the only thing that you can't do that mommy can. The one and only thing. You are equal to your baby's mommy and you, too, play an overwhelmingly important role in your kids' lives. So take ownership of that and know that you are learning every day, just as mommy is. And you are doing a great job.

Dear Dads: You aren't mommy's helper. You're an amazing dad.

How to Tie A Baby Head Wrap

For those of you who follow us on Instagram, you've seen these videos already. But if you don't or you missed them, we made some mini tutorials on how to tie a baby head wrap. Of course there are tons of ways you can do it, but these are four of our favorite ways we style Ava's bows and head wraps, and they can all be done in 30 seconds or less!

So here are the four videos on how to tie a baby head wrap so you can become an expert in no time! Which is your favorite?


Most bibs you see at Buy Buy Baby, Target and most department stores are...bibs. They're just that. Most are cheesy and just not very stylish, to say the least. So when Ava started drooling like crazy about a month ago, I had no choice but to put them on her and I did my best to keep her from wearing them in public.

She would wear a bib in the car and then the second we parked, the bib would come off and she would look adorable as ever in her perfectly styled outfit. And then one evening at our Bible study, one of our friends was holding her. I look over and literally half of her onesie was soaked. Like I could probably wring it out, soaked. And from then on, I knew that bibs in public would just have to do...even though they didn't match and didn't exactly compliment her outfits.

So I went to seek out "fashionable" bibs and found so many shops all over Instagram. I browsed and searched high and low, and came across so many adorable ones, until I found my favorites. And now that there are finally here (all the way from Australia), I am so excited that her bibs have become part of her fashion statement. They are now an accessory, just like a necklace or a cute pair of shoes. They are no longer just bibs and I am loving it!

Here are some adorable pics of Ava's new fashion accessories, the cutest baby bibs from Harlz & Haven...and I think I may need to order some more because all of their designs are just too dang adorable. Thank you Harlz & Haven for being so amazing and for adding some adorable new accessories to her wardrobe! If you want to take a peek, here is a link to their website.

Any other fashion bibs out there that you love? Comment below with your favorite shops!

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I got married young. Okay, not like teenager young but I was 23 years old when we said, "I Do" and now at 26, I have my first baby. And while this is not out of the norm whatsoever, in my group of friends it sure is. 99% of my closest friends do not yet have kids, and are not yet married. Heck, many of them aren't even in a relationship. And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with this (and I believe that no one should seek out marriage just because of age), it has left me feeling a bit out of place.

People always told me that things would change when I got married. "You will no longer have the same interests as your friends and will want to just stay in and hang out with him." And while I love hanging out with my husband, we love going out and socializing. It's just something that makes us happy.

And then Ava came around and it was like I was taking another step up the ladder, away from my friends. Of course, they were all beyond excited to meet her and all love her like they are her aunts, but things change when you have kids whether you like it or not.

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As you know, I am not the kind of mom who won't do things because of Ava's bedtime or nap time. I am not one to miss out on things because of our schedule. But the conversation definitely changes now that she is here. I now enjoy browsing Instagram for baby shoes and scouring the internet for the best articles on sleep training. And I have friends whose day consists of going to work like most adults, and then browsing Instagram for the most adorable bikini for summer time after a quick stop at a last minute happy hour with 4 other girlfriends.

There is nothing wrong with either and of course I am not saying we should get rid of the friends once we have kids. If any of my friends are reading this, I love you to the moon and back and would never even think of "dumping" you! But all I am saying that is in important to have mommy friends too. You want someone to lean on when you are having a rough mommy day (if you know what I mean), or someone to recommend the best brand of diapers because you just cannot control those blow outs, because some of these conversation (okay, most of them) just aren't going to work too well with friends who have never had kids. "Ummm just put her in her crib and wait until she falls asleep?"

While I was pregnant, I felt a bit of a void in that area. But thankfully, we joined a small group at our church and I now have some absolutely amazing new friends, many of which are mommies and daddies. We go on play dates, go to story time, and chit chat over mommy stuff. And I love having a second set of friends now who share many of my new interests.

If you are a new mommy or are expecting (or even expecting to in the future), I urge you to find a group of mommies to add to your list of amazing friends. Because if you're anything like me, it will absolutely fill that little void that you may have in your life. And who can say no to more amazing friends?

PACIFIERS | Should I use a pacifier for my baby?

Binky, soothie, pacie...they're all the same thing and get the job done just the same. And while they are a very typical tool for soothing your baby, should I use a pacifier for my baby?

Should I use a pacifier for my baby?

When we first started choosing items for our baby registry, I looked at the page of pacifiers, chose the one I thought was the cutest for a little girl and went on to choose the next item. Not even a single thought crossed my mind about potentially not giving Ava a pacifier. Growing up, I used one, my sisters used them, all of our friends used them, and I just assumed that using one was just something you were supposed to do with a baby. I mean, there has to be a reason they are so popular right?

And then I started reading mommy articles on the 12 different pregnancy and mommy apps I had downloaded, and I came across an article on the pros and cons of using a pacifier. Wait a mean to tell me that a pacifier - that little piece of rubber that makes my baby stop crying - could possibly harm her?

Yes, I heard about the one case earlier this year where the toddler bit off the end of his binky and choked on it but other than that, I just had never heard of anything possibly going wrong. Okay just one more - I do remember it being very difficult for my little sister's best friend to give hers up when she was getting a little too old to use it but other than that,  no harm seemed to come out of them. And that isn't the end of the world, right? So I began researching the pros and cons of using a pacifier:

The Pros: Your baby gets to suck on something which soothes him or her to sleep and makes her happy!

The Cons: It could potentially mess up their teeth and gums, it could interfere with their ability to breastfeed, and they have a higher risk of ear infections? Who knows about that last one!

So while there were pros and cons to using one (just like with everything else in life), we decided to go ahead and introduce her to one while we were still in the hospital, as she latched for breastfeeding right away and the lactation consultant gave us the go ahead.

And she hated it! That adorable, pink, butterfly shaped pacifier was useless.

The hospital ended up giving us a Soothie (that's the name of the brand) and she immediately took to that one. (Side Note: Register for a couple of different brands to see what your baby likes best!)

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We continue to use a pacifier to this day, but we definitely use it with caution...maybe once every couple of days at most. Our pediatrician suggested using it to see if Ava is really hungry or just wants to suck. Because there are days like the past two days where all she wants to do is suck all day long, and that wouldn't be too fun for my boobs if she didn't have something else. So for us, we have used it as a helpful tool, rather than something that Ava feels she has to have and is constantly attached to each and every day of her life when she is not eating.

Do your research and again, decide what is best for you and your family. But either way, there are pros and cons of both and what is right for one family may not be right for another. And heck, what is right for your first child probably isn't right for your second either!

NURSING PADS | Reusable or Disposable?

When I was about 5 months pregnant, one of those Facebook adds tailored exactly to me popped up featuring reusable, cloth breast pads. You know, I really hadn't even thought about breast pads before that. You mean to tell me that milk is going to shoot out of my boobs just randomly throughout the day? Yep, it sure does! Especially when you're blessed with a very full supply of milk like I am!

An excited pregnant woman who purchases everything I see that has to do with babies, I selected the designs I wanted and clicked "purchase." They arrived about a week later and then I stashed them away for a couple of months.

And then Ava came around and again, I didn't quite understand what was going to start happening with my boobs but after the first night, I soon learned that breast pads we're going to become a necessary accessory in my every day attire. I woke up with a soaked shirt...and I mean soaked. Like I could wring it out, soaked. So out came those breast pads.

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That lasted a total of, maybe, 3 days before I just knew there had to be a better solution to my "problem." So I asked a friend for her suggestion and she recommended Lansinoh disposable pads. And to this day, they are now a part of my every day wardrobe.

In those first three days, a whole lot went wrong with the reusable pads. So, here are the four reasons why disposable breast pads are much better than reusable ones:


1. The Leaking

Reusable breast pads (or at least the ones I had) are made of cloth. So with cloth and only cloth, they apparently don't take into account the mommies who leak a lot like I do. The first time I wore them, I leaked all the way through them and then all the way through my bra. Isn't that what they're supposed to prevent? On the flip side, my disposable ones not only have a plastic-like waterproof side, but they have an absorbent pad so that not even I can feel the wetness when I leak.


2. Staying In Place

One thing that I found great about the disposable pads is that one side is sticky so that the pad stays in place, whereas the reusable ones would slip around in my bra.

In addition to that, I LOVE backless dresses so that stick is absolute perfection! It sticks right in place on the inside of my clothes and no bra is necessary.


3. Size Matters

My disposable breast pads are far thinner than the reusable ones. And that's just a plus for obvious reasons.


4. No Ironing Necessary

The first time I washed the reusable breast pads, they came out all crinkled and just didn't lay flat after that. And what was I going to do, iron them every time I needed them? As if any mom has time for that!

So as you can see, I wasn't the biggest fan of reusable breast pads. Yep, they would've saved me quite a bit of money and the idea of them sounded great! But don't let them fool you, they just don't work nearly as well as the disposables. I vote for team disposable, 100%!

Here is a link to the Lansinoh nursing pads that I use:


When Aimee sent me a message on Instagram about trying out essential oils, I was a little skeptical. It really isn't anything I've ever tried before (or had any interest in trying) but I thought, "Why not!"

Well stepping back a couple of days, I responded asking what it was all about. Of course I am not going to try something that I don't even know the purpose of, right? So she quickly responded with an email telling me a little bit about the benefits and how they could be used in my new family life.

With a newborn baby in house, I wanted to be sure that this was 100% safe for her and after some research and hearing that the products are natural and unaltered, my last objection was overcome and I decided to give it a try.

Aimee send me a couple Doterra oils to try out:


"Lavender is wonderful for calming anxious, stressed and tired babies. It can help them feel calm and safe so that they can rest. You can put a drop of oil on YOUR neck and then cradle your baby on your shoulder where they can smell the oil. You can also rub a drop of oil on the bottom of their feet, where skin is the most porous and oils can be absorbed into the blood stream. Do this shortly before nap time."



"Melaleuca is antiseptic and antibacterial. It is great for supporting baby immune systems and protecting their delicate skin. Add a drop to lotion to help improve dry skin, flaky scalp and protect cuts from infection."

So I began waiting for the day when Ava became fussy, as she is typically great at falling asleep for naps and at bed time. Believe me, I waited and waited and waited, wanting to try them out on her. And then instead of waiting, I tried it on myself.

First up, lavender. After a busy day with lists of things still to do and dinner to cook, I put a drop on my neck and absolutely fell in love with it. Okay, of course it isn't magic but there is just something about that lavender smell that has such a calming effect on me!


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If you have any interest in learning more about essential oils to help support your family's wellness, want to test out a starter kit or have any questions about how this could help your fussy baby and a stress out, overwhelmed momma, then head on over to Aimee's Instagram page and shoot her a quick message @beautifully_natural_oils.

I figure, it won't hurt so you might as well give it a try!

Thank you Aimee for letting me test out a couple of the Doterra products and as soon as the day comes when I have a chance to try it out on Ava being fussy, I'm on it!


I judge moms who co-sleep. I am just going to say that right off the bat. It's plain and simple. How could you be so careless? There is such a high risk of harming your baby by co-sleeping so how could you possibly continue this terrible practice? It's reckless and is just straight bad-parenting.

Now that may sound a bit harsh, but I really just never understood it. Out of all of the studies and the warnings, and so many families continue. And I just can't wrap my head around it

And I've always judged these moms real hard...

...until Friday morning.

Ava is currently going through her third leap in her brain development and along with that, comes more crying, wanting more physical contact, and fussiness. Now if you know Ava, she is probably the happiest baby you've ever met and so even the slightest bit of fussiness is pretty out of the ordinary.

A couple of days ago, she started not wanting to go down for naps during the day and then not wanting to go to bed at her 7:00pm bed time. Well along with this lack of sleep, of course, came the crying. Crying out of exhaustion. You'd think babies would get the hint that they're tired and would just fall asleep. But no, she just cried even more because she was tired, which made her even more tired, which made her cry even more...and the cycle just went around and around. That isn't the norm with her but two nights ago the cycle was at it's prime.

And Frank and I were exhausted.

Let's step back a minute - Before I had Ava, I was the kind of girl who went to sleep at 9:00pm just because I was tired. And although I am already used to going to sleep in the 11 o'clock hour these days and waking up before the sun, being up until 2:00am just wasn't something my body (or brain) really liked.

So back to Thursday night...I just couldn't keep my eyes open. And Frank was exhausted with work in just a couple of hours. Ava wouldn't eat, wouldn't suck, and just couldn't fall asleep. We finally got her to use my boob as a pacifier and as she began slowly but surely calming down, Frank and I both dozed off and fell sound asleep. We were out for the count.

Like I said before, we are very against co-sleeping in our house. The risks of our comforter ending up covering her face or one of us bumping her with an elbow or worse, rolling over onto her as we're sound asleep just don't outweigh the benefits. And we always talk about how we don't understand how so many families co-sleep with their newborns every single night. Aren't they scared to death of hurting their little one while they are fast asleep? We've never been able to wrap our heads around it.

...until Friday morning.

My internal clock woke me up at 5:30am because that is when Ava wakes up. And she was fast asleep, right there between us. 6:30am rolled around and I double and triple checked to make sure she was okay. Yep, she's still sound asleep -- nice and peaceful. And then another hour passed and my boobs were getting a bit sore from all of that milk. They're used to pumping AND feeding her every morning so they weren't too happy with us.

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And so, I decided to wake her up at 7:30am. Ava slept until 7:30am peacefully and fell right back asleep after that for another couple of hours. Yes, she is used to going to sleep earlier so that is part of the reason she was so tired and slept so soundly but I can now say that I totally get it.

I get why moms co-sleep.

I continued to judge all of the parents who co-slept and didn't understand why they could be so careless. But I get it now. She slept so peacefully and I absolutely loved waking up next to my little beauty. And from this, I am reminded to not judge other moms for their parenting decisions because what is right for them, may not be right for me and my family. I am always preaching to not judge other moms, and there I was doing the same. But I totally get it now.

While we will continue to put Ava in her crib every single night and still don't like the idea of co-sleeping because of all of the risks, I have definitely learned a lesson about how harsh we can be on other mommies....even when we are mommies ourselves. So sorry to all of the co-sleeping mommies that I was silently judging. I learned my lesson, and I get it now. I got to wake up to the most beautiful baby girl in the whole world with the biggest smile on her darling face. And just that, made my one night of co-sleeping all worth it.


Ava is going to be three months old next week and we have not spent a single penny on diapers.

Yep, it's true. It wasn't just a catchy opening line to get you to keep reading, I promise. Ava is about to be three months old and up until this point, we haven't had to buy any diapers for her. Yes, she pees and yes, she poops....a LOT. So if you want to know how you can do this too, I suggest you keep on reading so you, too can learn how to save on diapers.

But you've got to start early -- months before your little one is born.

You see, when it came time to plan our baby shower, my mother in law asked one of her close friends if she could help. And Michelle gave her one piece of advice right off the bat, which has saved our wallet big time.

A Diaper Raffle

It's as simple as that! Want to know how a diaper raffle works?

Every guest at your baby shower brings a package of diapers. It can be an size, any brand. Well, I guess you can specify if you want specifics but we didn't know what brand we were going to want anyways so trying them all out was great for us. Everyone who shows up with a pack of diapers is entered into a raffle and then a winner is drawn for a prize! Fun, huh? Well, I guess it's fun for the winner (and for me!) but it is such a brilliant idea that I think every baby shower needs.

In order to make it work, you need to let people know with the invitation that they are invited to take park in the diaper raffle. And there's no pressure if they can't or don't want to. Here is how my mother in law did it as part of our Very Hungry Caterpillar-themed baby shower. And if you want to see more photos from our adorable baby shower, just click on the photo below.

As Ava approaches her three month birthday, we just moved her into size 2 diapers, with lots of size 1's to spare. In about a week or two, we are going to have to make our first diaper purchase but as soon as she moves into size 3 and 4, we've got lots more stored up for then :)

And that is how to save money on diapers! It works like a charm :)


You always hear people say how fast time flies - how quickly their kids have grown up. In the blink of an eye, they go from a newborn not doing much at all, to walking the stage at a prestigious university and heading off into the "real" world. And then they begin to have kids of their own and you become a grandma or grandpa. And with another blink, the whole cycle happens again and you are a great to a beautiful child.

I've heard this time and time again throughout my life, but I never truly experienced it until I became a mommy. I know it sounds pretty funny since I've only been a mom for 11 weeks now, but boy is time flying.

When Ava was first born, she was a beautiful little girl that slept a lot, cried every once in a while, and ate when I told her to. And other than being able to dress up my adorable little doll in bows galore, she didn't do much else.

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And we just couldn't wait until the day she began to purposely smile.

Then that day came and she never stopped smiling. She smiles every morning when she sees me standing over her crib, she smiles every time I talk to her or sing to her, she smiles as soon as she sees her daddy every evening after work and she even smiles when I change her diaper. She is one happy baby.

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And even after those smiles started, we just couldn't wait until she could hold her head up on her own.

And guess what? She is just about there! I can hold her on my hip and while her head is a little wobbly at times, she is just about there. It's amazing how much more free we feel when we can hold her with one hand rather than two. .

Now that she's reached that milestone, we just cannot wait until she begins to giggle...and that wish list continues...

This beautiful little girl is living each and every day just enjoying her life and yet, we just cannot wait until the next step. We always say that time flies and in the blink of an eye, our kids are all grown up and yet, we continue to look toward those future moments rather than living in the present.

One of my greatest goals as a mom, is to live every single day and every single moment, in the moment. Of course it is exciting to think about Ava's giggles which will come soon (and totally melt my heart) but while thinking of the future and just waiting for the day when she snuggles purposely and talks and heads off to kindergarten, the present is just passing me by. And so, it is my wish and my hope that I can just learn to live each and every moment with her and cherish those little things. Because in the blink of an eye, she is going to be all grown up and walking down the aisle to marry her prince charming. Andin that moment, I will want to go back to the day she first smiled.

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The bumpy freeway I've come to love.

Being a mom changes everything.

When I was pregnant, I had this whole plan in my mind -- I was going to work while Ava slept (because newborns sleep 15-18 hours a day so there's plenty of time, right?), I was going to have dinner ready every night before Frank got home from work just like normal and we were going to go out to dinner, hang out with friends and run errands just as we had before. Our lives would be just the same but with a beautiful little girl to share that life with.

And then Ava came along and it was not at all as I had envisioned it. For some reason no matter how much she sleeps, there just aren't enough hours in the day to work and I end up starting my work once she goes to sleep at night. It is such a pain running any errands because I am constantly in fear on getting barfed on and having her cry because she gets hungry every 45 minutes it seems, let alone getting everything prepared just to leave the house.. Oh yeah, and it's impossible to purchase a package of water bottles while pushing a stroller. Totally impossible.

And then the other day Ava and I were headed to dinner with her Auntie Kristin and Grandma and she just wouldn't fall asleep like she typically does in the car. She screamed and she cried, which is very unlike her, let alone while in the car.

We were driving along a nice, smooth freeway and then the freeway changed. It got bumpy and rough and immediately, she was asleep. Dead asleep. And then I thought to myself: just a couple of months ago, a bumpy freeway would have annoyed me like crazy but now, I just love a bumpy road and can't stand those newly paved streets.

And that is totally what motherhood has been like for me -- My perspective on life did a complete 180. A 180 that I absolutely love.

working mommy with a newborn

Next time you hit a bump in the road of life, just know that bumps are there for a reason. And we will encounter thousands of bumps along the way. And just like the bumpy freeways that I now love so much, we must learn to live and grow from each and every bump we hit, and realize that these moments are what make us mommies and what make our lives so imperfectly perfect. It may take me an hour just to grab a gallon of milk from Trader Joe's, with a screaming baby in the Boba and throw up all down my back, but these bumps are what make mommyhood the perfect adventure, and I have come to love and cherish them.

Rule your routine or let it rule you.

The opportunity to experience your every day routine, happens every singe day. But the opportunity to experience life, comes and it goes.

Most of the advice I receive from other mommies is just plain boring. "Blah blah blah..." nothing I've never heard before. And we all know that everyone who has already been a mom wants to give their advice. Annoying, yes sometimes, but I know they mean the best and just want to help! But still, the advice I receive typically isn't too helpful. But there is one piece of advice that I really have kept at the core of my mommyhood so far and is something my husband and I have vowed to keep at the center of our new lives as parents. 

So here it goes...

Frank and I have the most amazing aunt and uncles. Well, in reality I adopted them when I married Frank but I totally consider them my own family now. But moving right along...

We were up in Northern California for a wedding I was coordinating in Chico so, of course, we went to visit them in Sacramento on our way back down here to LA. I was about 20ish weeks along in my pregnancy and so, we got into talking about being parents. We know that they are fabulous parents and raised two amazing kids (who aren't kids anymore) so they are a couple we definitely look up to in that way.

And so, we asked them what their best piece of advice was for parenthood. And there was one piece of advice that is permanently engraved in my brain that I think every new parent needs to know.

"Just live your life and don't let your kids take over."

And they went on to explain further.

"If your child has a 7pm bed time and your friends invite you out for dinner, go to dinner. Your kids can miss their bed time once in a while."

Crazy, huh?

We all learn as parents that we have to stick to a schedule with our kids no matter what. Society has pounded that into my brain since the second I found out I was pregnant. If there isn't a routine, I will never sleep. And she will always be terrible at napping for the rest of her childhood. And that is definitely a big no no for any mommy. Sleepless nights until she becomes a teenager? No thanks!.

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While I agree that routine is, of course, a necessity in any child's life, we can break our schedules every once in a while so that we continue to live our lives. And if we do, we will survive. I am sure of it!

Our lives don't stop now that we are parents. And I think that I would go nuts if I didn't see my friends once in a while and go out and have some fun. Just last week we were invited to story time at our local library with a mommy friend and her two adorable girls and guess what? We got home half an hour past Ava's afternoon nap time. Did she survive? YES! Did I survive? YES! Did we stick to the schedule? Nope! And did that change in our daily routine negatively affect her life? Not at all!

Moral of the story: Just because we have kids, doesn't mean that our lives stop. Yes, our lives revolve around our kids now but we cannot let the schedules that we create for them completely engulf our lives. Because that is no way to live.

Stick to your routine but don't let your routine take over your life. Because no matter what society tells you, breaking that routine once in a while is not going to make you a bad parent. It will make you live a much happier life (which in return will make you a better parent) - I'm sure of it!

Break your routine, live your life, and get back on your routine tomorrow. Because a happy mommy means a happy baby :)