The 2 Phrases Parents Need to Use More

You know what's so fun about this blog? Besides having the chance to make friends around the world, having the opportunity to meet and become real, in life friends with some of you and documenting my world for Ava to look back on as she grows up, I truly believe that blogging has enabled me to be a better mom.

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I try my best to be vulnerable and to write about all of my weaknesses for the world to see in hopes of connecting with all of you and showing all of you that you are not alone. The world is not what you typically see on Instagram and all of those pretty photos of smiling babies are not always real life. Yes, they're all real and they're real life but there's another side to motherhood that so few moms are willing to show to the public and I think that's why so many of us feel alone.

I've been there --

Why is her two year old so smiley all the time? Does she ever even cry?
How did she get her baby to go to sleep in 10 minutes and it takes me 2 hours?
I wish I had a marriage like theirs.

We're constantly comparing ourselves to other moms and so for me, showing you all my faults is my way of hopefully showing you that you are NOT alone in your struggles.

So there's all of that, and then there's ME.

Blogging has enabled be to grow as a mom, as a wife and as a human being. Being able to reflect on my days and spend hours every week writing it all down enables me to see where I have succeeded and where I have failed. And without blogging, I'll be honest, I probably wouldn't sit there each day and actually think about all of this. So while this blog is for all of you, it's so much for me too.

I'm all about praising ourselves when we do great things. I remember when Ava was about 18 months old and we were going through a super rough couple of months where she would just scream all day and all night and she'd cry and cry and cry and there was nothing we could do to console her. It was rough. Like, real rough. And there were so many days where I'd yell and get angry at her and at myself and that would make her more upset which would make me more upset and I just didn't know what to do. And then one day, I only talked calmly, I took deep breaths, I held her and I hugged her and I let her know that I was there when she needed me. And that day I publicly praised myself for that. And it felt great.

So we need to praise ourselves. We, as moms, need that in our lives to prove to ourselves that we are great. But we also need to reflect and see when we've done wrong or find ways we can improve. Because no one is perfect, not any of us, and life is a game of growing and becoming greater with every day.

I know I just rambled for 7 paragraphs now so I'll get to my point...

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 Parenting Blogs - 2 Phrases Moms Need to Use More - The Overwhelmed Mommy Blog

Looking back on the week, there are two ways I want to improve. These are two phrases I need to say more of as a mom and two phrases I think so many moms could say more of:
 

1. "No"

So I'm not talking about literally saying the word, "no" because that's actually a word I try to keep out of my vocabulary when speaking to Ava. Instead of telling her, "no" I try to always use a positive phrase like "instead of climbing up your doll house, let's go inside your dollhouse on the bottom floor." But that's a whole new can of worms I'll dive into later.

What I'm talking about here is spoiling our kids. I'll admit -- I'm the worst. I want to give her everything she wants and everything she needs. I want to give this little girl the world.

But we all know that spoiling a child is far from great parenting but it's hard. It's really hard. We go to Target and she screams and cries because she wants that purple pair of sunglasses she sees hanging on the rack. And oh man, it's far easier to just get the $4 sunglasses and not deal with a screaming child while I run errands but that won't help me in the long run. And when she doesn't want to go to bed at night, boy it's easier to play with her and hug her and let her stay up and hang out with us. It's far easier to say "yes" than it is to say "no" but we all know that routine is imperative in a child's life.

Not giving in is hard and it's something I experience each and every day. It's something I know that I need to work on as a mom.
 

2. "I'm proud of you."

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I feel like so often I'm focused on teaching Ava what she's doing wrong and trying to make her a better person that I sometimes forget to praise what she's doing right. "Be careful" and "don't hit" and "Ava listen to mommy" and "don't touch that" flood my days and all of that is bringing such negative energy into her life. Of course, we need to teach our kids when they're doing something wrong but life is about balance. And with all of that negative, I need to focus on bringing positive into her life as well.

"I'm so proud of you for saying that new word" or "great job for eating your broccoli" or "you are such a smart girl" and "you did such a great job" and all of those positive things need to over-power the negative. I want to give more positive praises to Ava than negative statements and while I do really work on that each and every day, sometimes it totally slips my mind. Oftentimes it slips my mind. 

For example, if I tell Ava to not touch something at Target and she doesn't touch it, typically I'm just too focused on getting my errands done that I forget what she just did. She listened. So my follow up should be, "Thank you Ava, for listening to mama. I'm so proud of you for being a good listener."

And that, is the kind of mom I strive to me.

4 Things I didn't Know About Myself Until I Became A Mom

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There are a lot of things I didn't know before I became a mom, like how to soothe a baby, how to change a diaper, how to sleep train your kids, the medicines you can and can't use while breastfeeding and the instincts only mom's have. I didn't know how to get spit up stains out of clothes or that it was even going to be a thing I'd need to learn. I didn't know that my marriage would hit a crazy rocky point and I didn't know how selfless I truly was. I didn't know a lot of things before I became a mom but these are the four biggest things I learned about myself as soon as I brought Ava into this world:

 

1. I love wine.

...like a whole lot. You know it's funny because before I became a mom, I heard other mom's saying how they just can't live without it. They'd say it was a night time, after-the-kids-go-to-bed, winding-down time must and I just didn't get it.

But now I do. Whether it's dinner time or we're enjoying a glass out in the summer sunshine, wine is calming and enjoyable and it's just...perfection.

Wine is a mom's favorite juice. Wine is my favorite juice.

And Cameron Hughes Wine is definitely a fave. Cameron Hughes Wine is all about what’s inside the bottle, no fancy label, simple website… just high quality wine at affordable prices and that totally speaks to me as a mom. That's basically my life in a nutshell. Cameron Hughes wine is only one of a few Direct-To-Consumer (DTC) wine brands out there -- They source their wine and sell direct to the customer, which is how they’re able to sell an $80 Cabernet for only $30. And of course, those prices totally speak to me! So we can get a great bottle for entertaining, for date night or just for a glass after the kids go to bed, without breaking the bank.

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2. I don't care what other's think.

I used to put on makeup before I left the house and I used to make sure I was presentable wherever I went. And while it makes me feel great when I have a chance to put on some mascara and throw on some jeans, there are things that matter far more in life and I now know that. I don't care what other's think of me so much anymore -- it's more about how I feel about myself. Am I proud of how I'm parenting? Am I excited about my accomplishments and where I am and where I'm going? If so, then that's all that matters.

 4 Things I didn't Know About Myself Until I Became A Mom -- Best Inexpensive Wine - Cameron Hughs Wine Review
 4 Things I didn't Know About Myself Until I Became A Mom -- Best Inexpensive Wine - Cameron Hughs Wine Review


3. Saying "no" is harder than ever.

Before I became a mom I thought, "Why do kids spoil their kids rotten?" I just didn't get it. It's easy -- just don't buy them everything they want. But now that I am a mom, I get it. I get why kids get spoiled and entitled and it's harder than ever to tell Ava, "no." She doesn't want to go to bed at 8pm and all I want to do is snuggle her and play with her all night long. She screams for more YouTube and it's far easier to give in than to listen to an hour of screaming. And that toy she wants so badly? I want to give her the world! It's hard, it's really hard.


4. Two kids may not be enough.

I've got major baby fever, over here, and if I'm being honest, I have for probably a year now...or longer. And since we've been married, I've only ever wanted two kids -- one boy and one girl. But the other day, I was thinking about it and I said to my husband, "Maybe we should have like five kids?" And I was dead serious. He, on the other hand, almost died when he heard those words come out of my mouth.

But if I think about it, only getting one more baby seems insane. My first baby is already a toddler and sooner than I know it she will be in school and then I only get one more baby? Only one more?? At this point, that sounds insane and just so sad. So how am I ever going to stop??

This love I feel is a feeling that just can't be described in words and if you're a mom, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And this love grows ans grows and grows and it's the best feeling in the world. So why would I ever want to stop adding that kind of love to my life? Only time will tell but this mama's ovaries are itching for more.

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 4 Things I didn't Know About Myself Until I Became A Mom -- Best Inexpensive Wine - Cameron Hughs Wine Review

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OOTW | Cutest mommy + daughter jumpsuits ever.

So apparently people think I'm way cooler than I am because today I got to model in a REAL STUDIO for a REAL BRAND. Not that I haven't worked with a ton of brands before but you guys, this is my first real modeling gig ever!! Like, this studio reached out to ME they chose ME to be the model for a campaign that isn't even related to my blog.

Moral of the Story: I'm like really cool now. So cool. Wanna be my friend?

And you know what else? We just signed a new partnership deal with one of my favorite clothing brands EVER and I cannot wait to tell you all who it is! You're probably going to be as excited as I am!

So it looks like my week is off to a pretty great start. All smiles over here :)

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 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes
 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes

And even more smiles because today we're featuring out Outfit of the Week and this may be an all time fave. Yes, I think I say that every week but clothes just seem to get cuter and cuter! I'm rocking a suspender-style women's jumpsuit that's seriously so comfy and cute. It wasn't love when I first put it on but after a couple of wears it's totally true love, y'all. And then I've got my favorite super comfy light pink flats I've been telling you all about lately over on stories and my new favorite vibrant earrings that I basically wear every day now.

And then for Ava's super cute kids clothes - She's rocking a 60's style floral kids jumpsuit, a darling white bow from one of our new favorite kids bow shops, and the most adorable white kids sandals you ever did see. And wanna know what's so cool about those sandals? They have a buckle but it's all for show - they're velcro straps which makes my life so much easier.

Like it? Love it? Gotta have it? (Now I'm on the mood for ice cream...let's see who understands what I'm talking about!)

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 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes
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 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes
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 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes
 Women's Overall Style Jumpsuit - Kids Floral Jumpsuit - Cute Kids Clothes