6 Day Mom + Wife Devotional Series | It's not a contest.

Topic: Be the First to Make the Move

Challenge of the Day:
Make the move today.
Do something that your spouse wants from you and needs from you,
whether or not he/she has done anything for you. Apologize first if you've gotten into an argument, compliment him/her before he/she compliments you.
Be the first to make that move. Be the bigger person.

Quote of the Day:
"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." -- Proverbs 22:6

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Just like motherhood isn't a contest, marriage isn't a contest either. Just like you shouldn't compare yourself to other moms (especially what you see on social media), you shouldn't compare yourself to your spouse. You shouldn't compare the hard work you've put in vs the hard work your spouse has, the number of dishes you have washed vs what he has washed or the number of "things" you've done for him vs the number of "things" he's done for you.

I believe that this is where marriages begin to spiral out of control.

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Just think about this scenario:

What if you were only to provide for your kids when they were nice to you, didn't complain, were polite all day long, did their chores without asking, etc. etc. etc. What if you only drove them to school and sports and fed them when they did all of the things you wanted them to do for you? Would that ever happen? Nope, that just wouldn't fly.

That isn't parenting at all.

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You ever heard the phrase, "Lead by example"?  Yes, yes you have. When our kids scream, we talk in a calmer tone in hopes that they mimic that. When our kids do the opposite of what they're told, we continue cooking them dinner and hugging them and kissing them and loving them so they can begin to learn grace and love and forgiveness but in marriage, it seems that all of those rules sometimes fly out the window.

When we were first married, we agreed that I would be in charge of the "household stuff." I'd be the one to do the cleaning, the cooking and I'd handle the bills and those were all things I was happy to do. In fact, it made my heart incredibly happy that I was able to provide these things in our marriage. I worked from home, my schedule was super flexible and his wasn't and I was happy to provide those things as his wife.

Then my blogs started to take off, we had a baby and life got a bit more busy, to say the least.

And I felt like I was doing far more than he was. Yes, that is what we had agreed upon together and yes, we didn't ever have a talk about changing those rules but in my mind, he should've realized that I needed more help. And because I was stressed and annoyed and pretty angry at him some days (or most days), I felt that I shouldn't provide him with the things he wanted from me, because he wasn't providing me with the things I wanted from him.

And you'd never guess what he was thinking [ <--- sarcasm]

He was thinking, "Jenn isn't providing me with the things I need and want so I'm not going to provide her with the things she wants or needs." It was an endless cycle. It kept going around and around and around and we got more resentful of each other and annoyed with each other and soon enough, it was up to one of us to break the cycle.

To make a long story short:

Make the Move.

Be the spouse who does something for the other, even when they aren't doing what you want and need from them. This is exactly what you do for your kids -- you lead by example. And I will bet you, the more you do for your spouse, the more they will want to do for you.

Be the first to make that move.

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6 Day Mom + Wife Devotional Series | Love Language

Topic: Love Languages

Challenge of the Day:
Ask you spouse what their love language is. Literally ask him/her. (You may be surprised by the answer.) And then DO something for them this weekend that falls within their love language and watch their face light up and that love begin to brew.
And if you have kids, start learning each of their love languages too!

Quote of the Day:
"So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love." -- 1 Corinthians 13:13

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Last year I was reading a daily devotional for moms and one of the devotionals was GOLD. You know it's funny because everyone says that their kids could not be more different than each other but I never really thought about it until then.

Love Languages

If you've never heard of Love Languages, they are the ways in which we feed loved or the things that make us feel loved.

- Receiving Gifts: This doesn't have to be an expensive watch every day but little things like notes on their pillow or the bathroom mirror are great too!
- Quality Time: Doing things together like going out to coffee, out to eat, going for a walk together or just sitting on the couch with no cell phones present and snuggling up for a movie night.
- Words of Affirmation: Tell them why you love them, why you're thankful for him/her and what you appreciate about them.
- Acts of Service: Cleaning the house or taking out the trash or doing the dishes are all acts of service.
- Physical Touch: Kissing, holding hands and really anything intimate.

Take a second to think about your love language. Which one of these make your heart just so happy when your spouse or a friend or really anyone does one of these for you?

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For me, it's acts of service. When my husband does the dishes or vacuums or does my laundry, you'd better bet I find that sexy. In those moments, I feel loved and so appreciated.

So often times, I do those things for him. But in reality, he could care less about acts of service. He could care less if his laundry is folded or if the living room is clean or if the dishes are done. His love language is very than mine and that is something I didn't really think about until about 2 years ago.

And then last July I was reading that daily mom devotional and it struck me like a ton of bricks:

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Love languages apply to your kids too.

So instead of re-writing what I wrote last July, I'm going to just paste it right here:

I've always thought that snuggles and kisses and verbal cues were the best way to show her my love for her but after I read this I realized I was doing it all wrong. Sitting with her in her pink princess tent playing with her stuffed animals is what she currently views as love. And the snuggling? She could care less at most points during the day. So with that, I think that learning Ava's love languages as she grows will be huge factor in determining how our mother-daughter relationship grows and forms from here on out. And of course this will change as she grows up so it is my duty as her mom to listen to her cues and act on them. Telling her that I love her is one thing but SHOWING her is what will make the difference.

"DO YOUR CHILDREN FEEL LOVED? I didn’t ask, “Do you love your children?” I know the answer to that. But if you want to make sure your children feel loved, it is not enough to be sincere. You also need to speak your child’s love language. For some children, quality time is their primary love language. If you don’t give them quality time, they will not feel loved, even if you are giving them words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, and acts of service. If your children are begging you to do things with them, then quality time is likely their love language. It’s easy to get frustrated with the endless requests, but we need to respond with gentleness and patience, as Ephesians 4 reminds us. Bear with your kids, make allowance for their faults, and look for the need behind their behavior. Give them some focused attention, and watch their behavior change." -- Gary Chapman

Now scroll on up to the top to complete today's challenge. I promise, it's going to change your life.

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6 Day Mom + Wife Devotional Series | Get Dressed

Topic: Getting Dressed

Challenge of the Day:
Get dressed. That's all. And for those of you who get dressed every day, put on a little extra makeup or wear something that your spouse really loves and something that makes you feel extra beautiful. Make an effort to get dressed today (and maybe even throw on some mascara) no matter how busy your morning may be. And I promise it will start your day off in such an amazing way.

Quote of the Day:
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching." -- Hebrews 10:24-25

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When my husband and I were engaged, we did a private pre-marriage class with our pastor. Each week he would meet with us, talk about important marital topics, issues we hadn't even realized may be an issue once we moved in together and then we would have homework for the week -- typically questions to discuss with each other such as roles in the home, finances, kids, cleanliness, and just so many important topics that were necessary to discuss before we said "I Do."

But there's one topic that really stuck with me:

I'll be honest, I'm probably the absolute worst at this and I know that so many moms out there would agree with me because...you know...mom life. And mom life means time seems to pass so quickly every day that you don't even have time to get dressed most days.

And so, today's topic is all about getting dressed -- getting dressed for your spouse and for yourself, because both are important.

Really? Getting dressed is that important?

Of course this isn't always the situation but when you first meet your spouse, there's typically a physical attraction. I mean, you don't know each other yet and you don't know each others' personalities and what you love about one another yet, outside of physical looks, so in many cases, that physical attraction is the start of your relationship.

You dress up to go on dates, you want to look cute for this guy you're dating and that's all great. And then you get married, you have kids and that whole "getting dressed and wearing makeup" thing seems to slowly dwindle away. You don't need to impress him anymore (or so you think), you don't really care what strangers think and you're down to wearing makeup and actually putting real clothes on, maybe once a week.

Maybe.

Of course, we marry someone because we love them for who they are, we love their personalities and their values and we feel like they are our sole mate and the attraction thing is just an added bonus. But just like you need to continue dating your spouse for the rest of your life you also need to keep that spark alive and physical attraction is key. So get dressed up for your spouse, put clothes on and wear some makeup and re-spark that physical attraction that may potentially be fading away through the years. I'm not saying you need to do it every day, but every once in a while, show your spouse that you care about serving their needs.

And second:

Get dressed for yourself.

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Every single day I actually put on real clothes, it's crazy how much I get done. I'm the most productive mom in the world when I'm wearing "real" clothes and really, it makes me feel like a super mom. And that feels good. It feels real good.

Get up, get dressed and get productive for yourself and for your relationship. Oh yeah, and throw on a smile too :)

Now scroll on up to the top for today's challenge -- I'm guessing you know exactly what it's going to be!

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