Photography by Briana Lindsey Photography
Who is the center of your world?
My husband and I tied the knot in 2013 and I got pregnant with Ava in the summer of 2015. And on March 14, 2016 Ava became the center of our world.
Nights snuggling on the couch with my husband turned into snuggles with my baby, never wanting to put her down even when she was fast asleep for the night (and to this day, that continues). Date nights remained as we made a huge effort to continue living our lives after Ava was born, but instead of two of us at date night, we now had three. And one of us often decided that she didn't want to sit at date night for more than 14 minutes, causing two of us to take our food to go and eat at home.
We all know that life changes when we have a baby but for our husbands, I think their world changes even more than it does for us. He is no longer the one and only in your life and oftentimes, he gets pushed to the back seat.
So I'm not trying to put any gender roles in here but this is how it is in our home. In your home, none of this may have ever been an issue or maybe the gender roles our family finds ourselves in are the opposite for you. But whoever you are and whatever your role is in your family, babies take over.
I'm not complaining -- Ava is my world and always will be but remembering that our husbands are still there waiting for us to love on them and appreciate them is huge.
I've got to remember that my husband is my world too.
Our marriage has had its fair share of ups and downs and I've even blogged about two things that saved our marriage about a year ago when we didn't think it was going to survive. Click here if you'd like to read that post from last May. And let me tell you, it definitely hasn't been butterflies and rainbows since then but if I took anything away from that experience, the experience of thinking that a marriage was over forever, it has been this --Showing your spouse that you care and why you care in their love language is key.
Valentine's Day is coming up and of course, we want to show our husbands how much we love them. But why do we have to have a day labeled "the day of love" for us to show them that? Why can't every day be a day of love? Of course I'm not saying to go out and buy him a new watch every day, but if we show our husbands that they're special to us every single day, it would probably ensure this world is full of a whole lot more amazing marriages, don't you think?
So here's a list of little things you can do for your husband each and every day to show him how much you care, your appreciation for him and to show him love.
- Have his coffee made for him when he wakes up for work
- Snuggle with him even if you don't like to snuggle
- Have dinner made and on the table when he gets home from work
- Leave him a note + a chocolate bar on the front seat of his car
- Leave a love note in the shower or on the mirror in the bathroom
- Write a note on his napkin and pack it with his lunch
- Text him out of the blue just to give him a compliment, a reason why you appreciate him or just to say "I love you"
- Iron his shirts for him
- Take him out after work spontaneously for drinks or appetizers
- Tell him you're taking the kids out on Saturday morning so he can sleep in
- Make an effort to mention a reason why you love him beyond saying "I love you"
- When he gets home from work, be there at the door waiting to greet him with a hug and a kiss.
- Put on some make up, do your hair and actually get dressed. Seriously. They notice.
And most importantly, do the things he love. You know up there when I mentioned "love languages?"
That is key.
If he'd hate everything on this list, then that's okay. Don't do any of it. But ask him? "What are things I can do every day to show you how much I appreciate you?" And I'll bet you'd be surprised at some of the things he mentions. Whatever he says, do that. I promise he will appreciate it more than you know.